Learn to love your body

Gaydar Blog

Gaydar Blog
08 May 2024

We should probably stop reading mens’ fitness magazines. Sure, there’s plenty of eye-candy, but they’re not much use for anything else.

We were recently flicking through a copy of a fitness magazine that we’d succumbed to, and it included the results of a reader survey. To be honest, there weren’t too many surprises

For example: 49% of respondents were least happy with their Abs and yet 43% of respondents reported that the thing that is stopping them getting the body that they want is that they “like food too much.”

While surveys such as these are not rocket science, they are a useful reminder of the often subconscious impact that the way we look has on the way we feel.

Let’s reflect on some of the numbers revealed by this survey:

  • 65% of respondents are not happy with their body.
  • 10% of respondents would consider plastic surgery to improve their body.
  • 62% of respondents would like to lose weight.
  • 39% of respondents feel self-conscious about being naked in front of their partner

The obvious answer of course is to stop feeling sorry for yourself and get to the gym, but that kind of tough-love approach is not particularly helpful if you’re caught in self-fulfilling spiral of masking your low self-esteem with comfort-food and alcohol.

If you’re wanting to change the way you look, start with small, achievable steps – set yourself some goals and acknowledge your progress as you achieve them. Achieving goals and seeing your body begin to respond will motivate you to keep going.

Everyone can easily point to things about themselves that they’d like to improve, but getting a plan in place to try and work on your weaknesses is half the battle.

If you’re tired of shouting at yourself in the mirror each morning, here’s five steps you can take to recognise that you’re pretty spectacular – whatever shape you are.

Acknowledge your good points

Some days, everything feels wrong. But when you’re struggling with doubts about your body image, a good starting point is to write down your strengths.

These don’t have to be physical. What do people compliment you on? Are you a good friend? Are you a generous person? Can you make a sassy Margarita?

Even if you’re not happy with what the mirror is showing you, try and include a few physical attributes on the list of things you like about yourself. Do you smell good? Have you got great hair? Are your earlobes super-cute?

Writing down some of the things that are your strengths is a good way to remind yourself that you’ve actually got quite a lot going for you.

Take a step back

No one scrutinises you as closely as you scrutinise yourself. If you’re refusing to leave the house because you’ve noticed that one of your eyebrows is slightly longer than the other, you can relax. No one cares. No one is going to be holding a magnifying glass to your eyebrows. People don’t see you as you see yourself in the mirror – they’re getting the benefit of seeing you in all of your 3-D glory.

Rethink your support network

Your friends and family should help to make you feel good about yourself. Surround yourself with people that motivate you and inspire you. Surround yourself with people that enjoy your company and share your sense of humour. If you’re spending time with people that make you miserable and make you feel bad about yourself, then it’s time for a change.

Dress to impress

If you’re having one of those days when your self-esteem is low and you don’t like what you see in the mirror, wear something that makes you feel comfortable and confident. Your clothes can have a big impact on your mood and your attitude. If nothing in your wardrobe is making you feel good, then maybe it’s time to rethink the clothes in your wardrobe.

Put your critical thinking to work

We spend a lot of time comparing ourselves to strangers on the internet. That’s crazy. The guys that we see on Instagram are showing us the parts of their life that they want us to see. Everyone has bad days. Everyone is on a bit of an emotional rollercoaster. Just because someone on your social media feed looks like they’re having a good time, does’t really tell you anything about the punishing gym routine and controlled diet that they’re having to navigate to get ready for a photoshoot. If you want to look like an underwear model, do some research into what that takes – is that really where you want to put your energy?

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