First Date Tips

Yes it's early in the week, but you've decided that this weekend you’re going to expand your social circle, meet someone new and go on a date.

It’s been a while since your last date and you’re starting to feel a bit out of practice. So you use your Gaydar filter feature on the app to find the guy that ticks some boxes.

Friday morning comes, you've had a number of replies over the past few days from guys that look and sound to your liking, and you carefully select the one you want to meet.

Saturday comes, you've arranged a time to meet and decided on the venue. Now, you’re a bit out of practice when it comes to the dating game, and are in need of some advice and helpful tips of what to and not to do on the first date as some dates in the past didn't exactly always go according to plan...


Be On Time

It’s acceptable to be fashionably late to some parties, but to a first date – it’s a big NO! If you’re late, he may think you’re just not that keen when actually you couldn't sleep much last night as you are extremely keen and couldn't wait to meet him!


Be Confident

Everyone loves a bit of confidence. It’s a great trait to have and an attribute that is really attractive in someone. Just don’t overdo it where you can come across a little bit cocky.


Dress To Impress

We’re not saying you have to wear a suit and tie, but do put some effort into what you put on.  If you look good, you'll feel good.


Don't Drink Too Much

More often than not, your first date will involve some alcohol consumption. Just go easy… Being put in a taxi because you are unable to flag one down yourself on a first date does not give a good first impression.


Put Your Phone Away

This is your first date, so you’ll no doubt still have other potential suitors with your contact details. The last thing you want is for him to see a little Gaydar push message pop up on your phone!


Ask Questions

A great way to ensure that conversation will always flow is to simply ask questions. Keep them semi-general: Ask about work, his family, his hobbies, his favourite food etc.


Don't Mention Other Guys

This date is about you two, and you two only. Sure – talk about family and friends, but the ‘other dates you've been on’ chat should remain in no man’s land



This can be hard at times with first date nerves, but just make sure you relax into it, let your true self come out, smile and have fun.


Say Goodnight At The End Of The Date

This one sounds really obvious, but you have no idea just how many dates end with that awkward silence. The end of the date will come at some point so be ready for it. Be intentional when saying goodbye and end the date with a handshake, hug or kiss – depending on how the date went of course.


Get In Contact And Thank Him For The Date

This is a great tactic to follow up and initiate a second date if you really like him. Ignore ‘the three day rule’. If you really like him, seize the moment and let him know.


If you want to put these points into practice, then get chatting now!  Download the Gaydar app for iOS or Android or sign in/create a profile on our website -

Happy dating!