How Do I Get My Crush To Like Me?

So there's this one guy you've had your sights set on for a long time now. You're crushing REALLY hard, but you don't think he's noticed you just yet. It's getting to that stage where you start to think 'will he ever notice me?'.

Whether you're gay or straight, being single although it can be a dream, you sometimes find yourself having to work really heard to get noticed.  There's a lot of other singletons out there, perhaps fighting for the same attention from the same guy.  So how do you stand out from the crowd and get him to crush on you?



One of the most attractive traits in someone is the confidence they emit. Now don't get this mixed up with being cocky. Confidence can be in the way you hold yourself, you the way that you talk, the way that you dress. When you look sharp, you feel confident.  When you smell good, you feel confident.


Have A Sense Of Humour

Everyone loves a good sense of humour. Laughter is more than just the best medicine. It's a great tool to show your fun and relaxed side. And if you're ever the subject of the joke, laugh along with it. Being able to laugh at yourself shows great character. He'll see that too.


Let Him Know That You Know He's There

In other words acknowledge him. Don't play hard to get by pretending that you don't see him when he comes into the room. If you ignore him, he might think you're being rude. And you're not rude. Far from it. You've got manners (another attractive quality). So always say hello. You can compliment the way he looks. That's always a good way to get the conversation started.


Be Honest

It's another attractive quality to have. Honesty. If you disagree with something he says or have a different opinion, then let it be known. Don't be an 'I agree' or 'yes' man. Have your own opinion on things. It's what helps make you unique after all!



This is one of your most powerful tools. It shows your warmth. Never be afraid to smile. In fact, smile as much as possible. Smiling makes you feel good. And when you want to attract your crush, it's all about feeling good.


The great thing is that on Gaydar, you can still tick off all these points when approaching guys you like with your first message.

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